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Edvard Munch
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Freud's theory of the Oedipus Complex is a theory of such conflict stemming from our early relationships to parents and siblings. The Oedipus Complex is not a theory about 'sexuality', but a theory about sensuous-emotional relationships. As Freud put it: "a person's emotional attitude toward his family, or in the narrower sense towards his father and mother". Love and jealousy, rivalry and dependence are all mixed up together, directed to parents or their substitutes. Ambivalence is the order of the day. Not so much a story of 'sex' as an unavoidable psycho-drama with an infinite capacity for disguise and variation.
But there is one indissoluble link in Freud's sexual theories which may give us some hint as to why they have proved to be so disturbing. That is the intimate association between sexuality and anxiety. At first Freud thought that anxiety was caused if sexuality did not have an adequate outlet, as if some noxious hormonal substance built up in the body and poisoned it. Then he thought that anxiety was caused by repression of the sexual instinct. Repression meant there was an ill-defined sense of unease in the person, forever wary lest the banished impulses and phantasies break through the barrier of repression. The anxiety is a generalised feeling, more or less pronounced in different people and provoked by stressful circumstances, that something catastrophic or overwhelming will happen to you.
Finally Freud reasoned that it was not the repression that caused the anxiety, it must be the anxiety that caused the repression. We achieve our sense of sexual identity by overcoming various anxiety situations that scare us to death along the way. For instance, how does a little boy become secure about the ownership of his penis? He has confronted the terror that he might lose it. It sounds strange, but small children sometimes only feel they fully possess something when they think it might be taken away. Many games between adults and children play with this theme.
Whatever the merits of Freud's particular ideas, his overall thesis
is surely capable of investigation. He says sexuality is always linked
with anxiety. If we find a society or social group where this is not so,
we have disproved Freud's thesis. The famous anthropologist Margaret Mead
thought she had found such a society when she wrote her book 'The Coming
of Age in Samoa'. Unfortunately subsequent research showed that this was
not the case; the South Sea Islanders seemed just as hung up about sexual
matters as Mead's contemporaries. Perhaps modern society has overcome the
anxiety surrounding sex? We certainly seem more 'open' about it. What do
you think?
adapted from the forthcoming book Introducing Psychoanalysis
by Ivan Ward, illustrated by Oscar Zarate
Discussion topics:
Have modern societies overcome the embarrassment, shame, and fears surrounding sexuality?
Think of a specific situation of sexual embarrassment. How would
you interpret where the embarrassment comes from?